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Thursday, March 28, 2013

Marble...



I receive a lot of emails asking about my marble... a lot.  So, I thought it might be a good idea to talk about it in a post.  Please note, that this is only my personal experience with marble.




Per Wikipedia... "Marble is a non-foliated metamorphic rock composed of recrystallized carbonate minerals, most commonly calcite or dolomite.  Geologists use the term "marble" to refer to metamorphosed limestone; however, stonemasons use the term more broadly to encompass unmetamorphosed limestone."  
What that means to you and me is that marble is a porous stone.

Being a product of nature, no two slabs are alike and depending on the type of marble and where it was quarried marbles will stain, etch, chip and scratch differently .  Due to the natural conductivity of marble it remains cool to the touch and is a favorite surface for bakers to roll pastry or pizza dough.

My marble on the island is Bianco Venatino.  I chose it for its bold veining and the movement that the veining provided as a design element to the kitchen. The marble island is my primary prep space and gets a lot of use.   

To answer the repeat question I get- Yes, I love my marble.  Love.
I wanted marble for years prior to installing it in the kitchen.  I first fell in love with the stone on our trips to France.  Walking into patisseries and restaurants and seeing marble floors and counters that had been there for a hundred years or more was such a beautiful sight.  I loved the worn patina that years of use had given the surface.
But, before I put a marble island in the kitchen I did my homework.  I researched and read everything I could- the good, the bad and the ugly and I knew what to expect when living with the stone.   As with most things in life- knowledge is power, so I was also ready for the 15 times every single salesperson at different stone yards asked me if I was familiar with marble's properties?/did I know it would stain?/granite would be much safer/was I sure that I wanted marble?, etc... .
All of those questions are standard  "industry prose" and you need to educate yourself and then stick to your guns if you want marble in your kitchen.   I would bet a paycheck that all the people who try to talk you out of marble don't actually own and live with the stone.


Honed vs. Polished.
I have honed.  I feel honed marble has a certain je ne sais quoi that is difficult to describe.  I also felt the soft patina of honed marble was more in keeping with my 150 year old farmhouse as opposed to polished (shiny) marble.   Polished marble is definitely starting a come-back, but know that it "etches" 100 times worse than honed and I personally would never use it in a kitchen, or even a bathroom for that matter as many toiletries will also cause etching.

When my marble island was installed it was sealed by the company that installed it.  I have not chemically sealed it since.   My personal experience has been that once sealed,  marble does not stain.   I have discovered red wine drips/raspberry jam/marinara sauce, etc... left for hours/overnight and have no red stain at all on the marble.
What marble does do, with abandon, is "etch".
Since marble is a calcium based stone when anything acidic comes in contact with it a chemical reaction will occurs and the stone will "etch."  An etch is a dulled (appearing as a light, matte gray) area on the surface of the marble that can not be wiped off.  It doesn't matter what sealer you use, you will get etching spots from anything acidic:  lemon/lime/orange juice, various fruits and vegetables, i.e. tomatoes (salsa is a big culprit for etched rings for us ;), coffee, wines- red or white,  vinegar or any product that contain the smallest amount of vinegar, etc... .  And, it doesn't matter how careful, or neat and tidy you are in the kitchen, you WILL get etching- no ifs, ands or buts about it!
I can't tell you how many times I've heard people tell me that they had no idea what caused that etched ring on their marble.  It's always a mystery!  It is simply a property of marble, so you either need to be okay with that or pick another counter material.   The first six months are the worst as you notice (and angst over)  each and every little tiny (and large) etch spot or ring.  Then it all softens, blurs and becomes muted and you get what is affectionately called "patina"!  I knew my marble would not stay perfect and that is exactly why I chose it.    I have a house full of antiques and I personally value the wear and tear, and "signs of life"- the patina that a surface such as marble can provide to a space.  My experience with etching is that I have found that the etching tends to fade over time; so an etch that was there six months ago is no longer there.  I can't explain that aspect of the stone, but I like that it seems to forget etches from the past with the passage of time.   A "design" urban-legend has it that Meg Ryan poured lemon juice all over her marble the very day it was installed in her kitchen to etch the whole thing in advance.
If you, or your spouse/partner, want a "perfect" surface then you might what to rethink marble.   You must either accept that along with the beauty and durability of marble comes etching (think rose/thorn;), or you'll make yourself and your family a nervous wreck.  Having a surface in your house, especially a utilitarian kitchen surface, that you are terrified of using for fear of harming is like having a beautiful sofa that no one can sit on.
It is important to say that the etching (rings /spots) are really only seen at an eye-level angle or perhaps in just the right light.  You don't walk into the kitchen and immediately see the etching- you really have to look for it to notice it.  I would also like to add that the bold veining and the abundance of veining in my particular marble really helps to camouflage the etching.   Also, I have no chips, but do have small surface scratches, but again- you really have to look for them to see them.


Here are some photos of examples of "etching" on my marble island.  The first three photos were all taken several days ago, at the same time.  Our kitchen gets lots of light all day since we have windows on the east and west walls and is very bright.  Having said that, notice how I really had to darken the first two photos and take the photos at eye level for you to even see the etching.  (I wish I knew how to put those cute little pointer arrows on a photo;)  You can see a round ring in the middle of the photo about six inches from the edge.




Slightly different angle shows the large ring (what was that from??!), two large triangular etches below that and several "dots" etchings.  Same surface, but see how the light and the angle cause you to see it more than the other?





Again... same day/time, but from a standing view above which is how you normally "see" the marble in its natural (bright) light.  Notice how you don't see or notice a single one of the etch rings or dots in the photos above!




This photo was taken probably six months before the above photo.  Notice how the etching rings and dots that were on the marble then are no longer visible on the photo of the island now (above).




 If you decide to install marble I would research and find the very best sealer on the market ( I do not know the name of the brand of sealer that was used on my island.)  Many people re-seal their marble every six months to a year.   Again, the sealer is to prevent staining, not the etching.  I have chosen not to chemically re-seal my marble because I haven't had any issues with staining and I want it to develop a used and loved patina.  If the etching is getting to me (like it did in the above photo ;)  I use my favorite Bar Keepers Friend to eliminate or reduce them.  I mix the powder with water to make a paste.  I use a damp sponge to apply the paste to the etching, rubbing in a circular motion.  I then let the mixture sit on the etch for 10-15 minutes, and then wipe clean several times using clean water and buff to dry.
 ( Note:  Do this at your own risk.  This is NOT an ordained etch removal that any stone fabricator would tell you; it is simply what I have found works for me.)
I have read that hundreds of years ago, before the invention of commercial sealers, that the Italians and French would seal marble with olive oil.
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I have heard of so many stories of people who were talked out of marble by a salesperson.  That's unfortunate, but in my opinion, that was their own mistake.  In building/renovating you must have a very clear vision of what you want your space to" feel" and "look" like because at every single turn some salesperson/contractor/carpenter/painter/plumber/etc... will try to talk you into their vision.
  Research.  There are so many fabulous products available now that you really have to do your homework.  Know the maintenance and upkeep and decide if any product is something that you want to live with.   Know the pros and the cons, if any, of every single thing you put into your home.   Know what you want and don't let anyone dissuade you from your vision. Period.



The most compelling thing I can say to you if you are trying to decide whether to use marble in your kitchen is to remind you that it has been used in France for centuries, and the French are the quintessential experts on all things good in design and in the art of living well!


Again... please note, that this is purely my opinion based on my experience only.
I would love to hear of your experience with owning marble counter tops- love/hate?,
were you talked out of it by someone?,
did anyone try?,
do you have any sealers or products that you absolutely love for marble?!


TO READ MY POST ON LIVING WITH SOAPSTONE HERE

Sunday, March 24, 2013

It was Muffin's birthday!


Yesterday we attended our friend Muffin's 31st birthday party!  Muffin is a horse.  She lives down the road from us in a red barn with other horses and a henny named Pierre.
You might remember reading about her birthday party from last year here.


Last year's invitation was a simple shout-out the car window as Muffin's owner drove by, but his year was more formal and Ella received a written invitation!  It even had an RSVP!!  




Being the proper southern girl that she is (Dallas SPCA) Ella decided to write her répondez s'il vous plaît  instead of phone her reply!
 (  I   Ella thought that Muffin's 7 year-old 'human' sister might like to receive a note from Ella ;)




Ella likes to call Muffin "Muffins" cuz when you're talking about muffins more is always better, yes?!




Ella's gifts wrapped for the party!  The white box is for Muffin and the box of carrots are for all our barn friends.




Muffin the birthday girl!




Lookin' good at 31!  That's her son, Gibson, in the stall next to her, he's only 21!




"Happy Birthday to Muffin!"




Just like last year, Ella thought the party was really for her and wiggled and waggled her way through the crowd!




Ella's whole body wiggles when she's happy and she was very happy to meet a new tiny friend!




Muffin getting a carrot from her human sister.




This is Pierre, the hinny.  He was saying "More carrots, please."  Seriously, he was very vocal in his desire for more carrots!




Unlike last year's party where we had an early spring and temperatures were in the 80's, this year we had snow on the ground and temps in the 30's!   This is our good friend Scruffy, he's a rescue too!  Ella wore her cupcake collar for the special occasion.




So, what did Ella get Muffin for her birthday?  You might have noticed someone very special was missing from the barn...




 Thoroughgood, the sweet old goat, went on to greener pastures this past year :( so we had a photo taken of him from last year's party framed to hang in the barn so that he is always remembered... smiling.



A delightful time was had by all and Ella was exhausted after being the belle of the party!  She needs to rest up though, as she was invited to a (human;) wedding this June!  It's tough being Ella;)



::post script::
My sincere apologies, but I have had to turn on word verification for comments since my spam comments are out of control.  I used to just delete the five or so I got per day, but now I get 30 to 40.  Entire websites are devoted to send spammers to blogs that do not require word verification, so  until the spammers settle down I will have the verification box on comments.  Sorry for the hassle.

Thursday, March 21, 2013

a new kitchen skirt for spring




I've added a jaunty new sink skirt in anticipation of spring!  Two days ago a late winter snowstorm  brought us an additional 13-inches of snow; this was on top of the 10-inches or so that was still on the ground from the last snowfall.  Spring seems very far away at the moment, but I know it will be here before we know it!





The citron chevron fabric works well in the kitchen with my collection of antique rugs and vintage & antique green yellowware in the glass-front cabinets.




You can see all of our snow out the window!




Vintage hotel-silver champagne buckets flank the sink and hold white Kalanchoes.  This champagne bucket is from the Hotel Tuller in Detroit. 




This hotel-silver bucket with the engraved "N" is from the Newhouse Hotel in Salt Lake City.






Saturday, March 9, 2013

a little more "use your good stuff"...



A quick follow-up to my "use your good stuff" post... I wanted to share a few more stories with you.


Several of you commented that you use your wedding sterling as your everyday flatware.  I love that and wanted to share the idea with those who perhaps didn't read the comments from the last post.  My everyday flatware is also sterling, though not my wedding sterling which is "Joan of Arc" that I inherited from my grandmother because of the "Joan" part;)  We found our everyday sterling flatware at an antique shop in Salina, Kansas  (I liked the scale of the purchased sterling better than my wedding flatware) and have added to it over the years as we would find it at antique shops and shows.  Though all the same sterling pattern, many pieces are different- some are plain and some are monogrammed with different initials that came from separate purchases-  I love the mix of the different initials all together at one setting.  I initially got the idea to use sterling as my everyday flatware from "my much older sister ;)" Susan.  She was the first person I ever heard of (this was about 30 + years ago) who started to use her wedding sterling flatware as her everyday flatware.  I loved the idea, and another bonus of using the good stuff is that using sterling actually keeps it from needing to be polished!  The oils from handling keeps it shining!  So, the more you use it the prettier it is, and the little scratches from everyday use creates a beautiful, loved patina!
If you don't have wedding sterling flatware look for patterns you like at antique shops.  Sterling is so affordable right now that you can find some great deals out there, and as I mentioned it looks wonderful all mixed together- doesn't even have to be the same pattern.  It's a purchase that will last your lifetime and one that you can then pass down.




As a young girl I always knew that my grandmother's sterling flatware would one day be mine and I have always loved the simplicity of the pattern.  I would have chosen it myself.   Perhaps that is where my mother came up with the idea to give my niece, Jenny, her sterling flatware as gifts when she was a little girl growing up.  I wanted to share the idea with you which I think is a wonderful one:
When Jenny was a little girl my mother knew that she would receive all her gift-wants/desires for Christmas and her birthday from her parents and friends, and wanted to give her gifts that would last and mean something special for longer than a month or two;), so at the young age of 10 her mother, my much older;) middle sister, took Jenny to the china department of a store and over the course of a few visits Jenny picked out a sterling pattern that she liked.  Every Christmas and birthday my mother would send Jenny a piece of her sterling flatware instead of p.j.'s or a stuffed animal!   A special gift that would last forever!  To this day, Jenny (as I did my own) loves the pattern that she picked out as a child and now has a full service.  I think it is such a great idea and makes such a special gift that I wanted to share the idea with all you mothers/aunts/grandmothers out there!


And, lastly a funny story that brings home my ardent stance of "use your good stuff"....
It was the first Christmas in our first home and we were invited to our next door neighbors house for a Christmas party.  Our neighbors were older and had a huge collection of Waterford crystal- so much so that they had even built a special room onto the house to showcase and display their large collection.  This was not a casual outdoor BBQ, or a large party, or one where children were invited, but a lovely, formal small party of neighbors, and yet even with their huge collection of Waterford crystal sitting on display in the next room they served their guests wine in RED PLASTIC CUPS!!   Nothing says "you're welcome here" at a formal party like a red plastic cup!!
Again... use the good stuff! :)


happy weekend to you!
xxojoan

  

Wednesday, March 6, 2013

use your good stuff...



We were young, really young (well, I was actually younger since Dan is 7 years older than me;) and poor.... really poor. 
It was our first Christmas together and while I didn't expect anything expensive I certainly didn't expect the Christmas gifts that Dan gave me that year...

a sweater stone and an umbrella.

You did read the part about it being our "first" Christmas together, yes?!!
Now, to his defense- Dan had been listening to me as I really did need an umbrella and a sweater stone (that was back in the day when yuppie pullover sweaters were all the rage)... I just didn't necessarily want them as Christmas gifts ;) !  I pretended to be delighted, but I secretly had hoped for something a little more "special."    
The next Christmas Dan redeemed himself when he surprised me with a gorgeous Baccarat crystal vase for Christmas- an extravagant gift that we could ill afford at the time, but one that I loved!  It was the late 1980's and we were piece-mealing the remaining of our wedding Waterford Araglin crystal (do brides still get crystal glassware and sterling flatware these days?) and Baccarat Harmonie tumblers.  It is a beautiful vase and has a way of catching the light just so.
For years I used the vase only for display.  I viewed it as a "work of art" and would keep in on the coffee table in the living room and admire it always, but never use it.




By this point in our marriage we had moved to Dallas and were frequent shoppers at estate sales.  We found some wonderful, amazing, fabulous finds in those early years-  back before everyone and their best friend was into antiquing.  We would often come home with a great find and say
"Look at that... it has never, ever been used."
It always made me a bit sad- that the person had saved the piece for some special occasion that
 never came.
 
I can still remember the night I was sitting in the living room and I looked at the Baccarat vase and thought -
"  ohmygawd..........  someone is going to pick up this vase at MY estate sale and say.... 
'This vase was never, ever used.'  "

In that split second I decided I would use and enjoy the vase instead of just looking at it. 
The next day I purchased some white roses, and the vase has now been used for many years.  There are the obvious scratches from wear that immediately devalues the piece from a collectors point of view, but it feels much more comforting to know that at MY estate sale someone will pick up this vase and think....
"Wow, she must have really loved this piece!"

Life is short ....Use your good stuff !



(And, no- you can not get on a sign-up list for MY estate sale!    Oh sure,... like you weren't thinking that :)